My BDSM Feelings
Even though i have been raised to be a nice guy, bdsm always have fascinated me, even before I knew it did. With in the realm of BDSM, I call myself a switch, meaning I have both Dominant and submissive feelings. Mostly they depend on my general mood. Feeling scared, depressed or sad will make me more submissive, while I will feel more Dominant in a good mood.
Background
Although I have not too much real life experience with BDSM, I am serious about it. Regardless if we are talking about real life, the virtual world of Second Life, or instant messenger. I do agree with and follow the BDSM Trinity, and invest a lot of time in knowing my partners (even in chat en Second life) just to know and understand what they need.
Of course, i have my own likings and disliking in BDSM. I am one of those who does not find the pain aspect too appealing (especially not for myself). Although at times, a good spanking or alike might be in order to correct the submissive, it is not something I focus upon too much.
For me, BDSM is more about role playing, bondage, humiliation, combined with lots and lots of love. Ageplay and Animal play are the things I like most. It has to do with the idea that while you can be cruel humiliation wise, you can still show your love to them. I also like to train do sensory deprivement, together with some bondage.
My Dominant side:
This side likes more types of play. My main focus is Loving Dominance, but I can also be more strict and and ‘cruel’
