For those who love to wear diapers, his love can go 3 ways:
This is how much you are attracted to diapers on their own. How the feel, smell, crinkle, how they look. Someone who would like diapers strictly from a fetish side would only need diapers (and maybe plastic pants) to for fill their needs.
- Humiliation (Submisive BDSM Feeligns)
Although I have read diapers being used more or less from a pure convenience point by people who like prolonged bondage (more then a few hours), In the BDSM scene, hey are mostly used for humiliation.
- Regression (Infantilism)
This is about using diapers and other babyish items to get yourself in a regressive mindset (eg feel and act younger). In his younger state of mind, you are able to let go of your worries and responsibility, especially if there is someone else to take care of you.
These 3 points are not mutual exclusive. Rather Most people I know have a mix of all 3 elements. Some are clearly drawn towards only 1 or 2 of these points. There are also people exclusively liking just one of the 3 corners. Most of them are those who like regression.
Adult Baby / Diaperlover / BDSM Graph*
- I put diaper loving in the middle of the Caring / Humiliation axis, as it is not oriented in going one direction or an other (though I have observed most people being diaper lovers leaning more towards the caring side)
- I Put the Humiliation in the middle of physical and psychological orientation, as this is a clear aspect of BDSM, and bdrm is not per definition about physical sexual fulfillment (though many people lean towards this)
- This graph does say only somethign about the mix of feelings between the 3 corners, not about how strong each of these feelings is in absolute terms. (Someone who incorporates diapers and BDSM into his real life on a daily bases might have more need to the regressive side then someone who only wants to be regressed once a blue Monday.)
Where am I ?
Well clearly, I am a mix of all 3, like most into this kind of sexuality. I have a need for regression, but also have strong BDSM feeligns. But it is also clear that the diaper on its own is for me very powerful. I thin if you take the lines of the triangle as absolute lines, you could place me here:
Somewhat more submisive then regressive
Somewhat more fetishist then regressive